September 17, 2015
Have you ever struggled to let go of something, even though you knew it wasn’t good for you?
I have to be honest: I’ve done this more than I’d like to admit.
It usually comes down to fear. Fear of the unknown and the fear of the giving up something that I might really need.
I’ve experienced this type of situation enough to know that if something is truly meant to be, it will be, but still – wouldn’t it be nice to know with 100% certainty if you were meant to let go of something?
While I don’t have a crystal ball, I did sit down earlier this week and create a cheat sheet you can use the next time you find yourself in the “Is it time to let go?” predicament.
Do yourself a favor: use it; it’ll save you hours of worrying and obsessing.
6 Signs It’s Time to Let Go
1. You have a hunch. If you’re meant to leave something behind, your inner voice will let you know. It could be something subtle, like a simple thought, or you might hear it in the lyrics of a song on the radio. Either way, you’ll know.
2. You consistently give more than you receive. If you’re questioning letting go of a relationship, check the balance of giving and receiving. When these are in balance, the relationship is in harmony. When you give more than you get, though, you won’t feel so good and will likely feel angry and resentful over time.
3. You consistently receive more than you give. I hate to admit it, but when I was in high school, I was in a relationship with someone I wasn’t attracted to. I stayed with this person for over a year even though I wasn’t in love with him. I did it because I thought playing it safe would help me avoid a broken heart. Unfortunately, though, I cheated myself and him out when I did this. I played small and I had little growth because I wasn’t taking much risk. As a result, I felt largely unfulfilled.
4. The majority of your interactions are negative. If the majority of your interactions are negative, then you’re not set up to thrive – at least in the marriage arena. In fact, a recent study found that the longest-lasting marriages are those where every 4 out of 5 interactions are positive. If your relationship – whether with a boss, friend, or loved one – consistently falls below this, it may be time to let go.
5. Your “inner truth” detector says it’s time to move on. As much as I love my intuition, I have to admit – I hate it when this happens! This is especially true when I’ve just gotten into a groove. As tough as it is, though, life is about growth and change – and letting go is a big part of it.
6. You don’t feel positive or uplifted. Whether it’s a relationship, a job or an environment, you deserve to feel positive, supported and uplifted the majority of the time. If you’re not, it’s time to practice self love and let go.
Make sure to check back in next week when I share some of the miracles that come as a result of letting go!
Have a great week!