That’s all for now, friend. Wishing you an awesome week and BLESSINGS GALORE today!
That’s all for now, friend. Wishing you an awesome week and BLESSINGS GALORE today!
Did you like it?
My guess is probably not.
But maybe, like me, you’ve been sick recently – and realized it isn’t all bad.
What’s great about a stuffy nose, a broken arm or a hospital stay?On the surface, and when you’re going through it, usually nothing.
At least at first.
But earlier this week, on about Day 3 of an incredibly painful, 5-day sinus infection, I realized something:
Being sick isn’t all bad.
There are actually quite a few positives hidden in there!
Do you know what they are?
Let’s take a look!
2 – Being sick is your body’s way of communicating with you. Have you ever had a mysterious illness doctors couldn’t explain? Did you ever wish someone could just tell you? The truth is, someone is telling you … YOU!
What do you mean, Jaime?
I mean that getting sick is your body’s way of communicating with you! Anytime you get sick, your body is telling you that something is off. Sore throat? You’re probably not speaking up about something. Pimples? You were likely mad earlier in the week. Heartburn? You may be afraid or fearful of something.
A few years ago, I began developing a strange sort of edema in my body. I had every test imaginable done – allergies, proteins, hormones – but the doctors couldn’t come up with anything. Then, one day while I was meditating, I heard to look into the book called, “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. It’s a treasure-trove of information on multiple levels and I highly recommend it. And, it helped me decipher the cause behind my suffering: I needed to let go of certain things!
I was skeptical at first, of course, but over time, I started to see it working. I literally went from swelling episodes several days a week to virtually none at all anymore.
How did it work, exactly?
Whenever I experienced the mysterious swelling I would ask myself: “What do I need to let go of?” and every time I followed through, the swelling would magically go away.
Today I am 100% certain that swelling was a physical manifestation of me “holding onto things” too tightly. It usually indicated a relationship was past due, or it was time to part with a responsibility that wasn’t mine. Sometimes, though, it meant I needed to do some physical clutter-clearing. Which takes me to the next benefit of being sick …
Being sick isn’t always easy – most times it downright stinks!
And while it’s not always fun to get sick, it’s not all bad, either. Whether it’s what you need to finally get some rest; it’s your body’s way of communicating something to you; or it helps you clear out the old – being sick has its positives, too. Remember that the next time you’re not feeling up to par.
That’s all for me this week! But before you go, click here and tell me:
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Have an awesome week!
To have the right to drive a car, to vote, or go into the career field of your choice?
While I love fireworks, apple pie and barbecues, my favorite part of celebrating the Fourth of July is thinking about the freedoms I have as an American. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying America is without flaws, but really – the freedoms here and in other developed countries are truly amazing.
In some cases, they may even hold themselves back from being free.
Why would anyone do such a thing?
We don’t realize we’re doing it.
Consider you live in a country where your freedoms are restricted.
There’s a law forbidding you to go on a vacation.
There’s a law saying you can’t move.
And there’s another law saying you can never end a relationship – even if the other person belittles you, hurts you or criticizes you.
Yet, have you ever found yourself saying:
“I can’t take a vacation now. Who will do X, Y and Z?”
“I couldn’t possibly move. It’s too hard/There’s nowhere to go/I can’t afford it,”
“I can never leave or cut ties with that person. What would my family/friends think?”
The truth is, though, if you really wanted to, could you leave? Or are you choosing to stay?
I know how hard it is to let go of certain people and things; especially the toxic variety. I know the covert abuse, confusion and entanglement that permeate these types of relationships, and I really know how hard it is to say no if you’re a giver.
But … I also know how detrimental it is to stay in unhealthy, unbalanced or toxic relationships. And I know if I do it, it is actually a choice. This is not an invitation to beat yourself up by any means – but rather an invitation to become aware of decisions you may not realize you’re making.
Moving on …
The vacation situation I mentioned above is another way people limit themselves and their freedoms.
Take me, for instance:
It wasn’t that I didn’t have vacation days; I just believed I couldn’t take them or didn’t deserve them. I thought if I did, everything around me would fall apart or the workload would be huge when I returned, so, really, why bother? Instead, I worked long hours, took few breaks, and virtually allowed myself to get drained, drained, and more drained.
When I finally felt exhausted and resentful enough to take a vacation, it changed my life! Sure, it wasn’t easy, but boy was it worth it! I literally felt like a new person when I returned from a week away.
And you know what?
Things hummed along just fine without me!
I let people bully me.
As a highly sensitive person, I used to crumble if anyone looked at me the wrong way, let alone yelled at or humiliated me.
I would isolate myself, internalize their anger and allow it to control me.
A few years ago, I reached a breaking point and finally put my foot down. I learned everything I could about narcissists and bullies and became a Certified Assertiveness Coach. During this period, I also discovered how to stop bullies from running my life – largely by learning how to take my power back.
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Have a wonderful holiday weekend and a happy Saturday!
Old weights are gone, my body and soul are smiling, and I feel refreshed!
But, alas, I knew the trip was destined to end.
As our departure date rolled around, I thought about the many things I loved about this trip – the ocean breeze, the rainbows, the time with my spouse, and more.
And then I realized something: this would be my last morning of drinking espresso on the comfy furniture on the balcony. My last time looking at the lush, tropical paradise. My last time at the beach. I so loved it here, and now it was time to go.
As a twinge of bittersweet emotion enveloped me, a thought struck me:
As I pondered it more and tried to detach from the negative chorus in my head, I realized something:
Sure, thinking of a place you’ve been or another happy memory isn’t exactlythe same as being there – because, well, you’re not physically there – butfortunately for us humans, it’s difficult for our brains to tell the difference.
Think of a time when you felt spectacular. It could be anything: a favorite vacation, spending time with a loved one or animal, or watching your favorite movie.
Now, spend 20-30 seconds really immersing yourself in the memory.
For example, if you’re thinking about the last time you got a pedicure, think about how good and relaxing the warm water felt on your feet. Think about how wonderful and refreshed you felt while receiving the foot massage, and how much better you felt once it was over.
Take 30 seconds now, close your eyes, and run through your memory.
And then pat yourself on the back because you just used your mind to your benefit. You also participated in something called Mindfulness Meditation, which is consciously using your memories to change your state of being.
Besides feeling good, mindfulness has a host of other positive benefits – everything from increasing a person’s happiness and health to improving their relationships. It’s being used in prisons now to cut down on violence and aggression, and it’s also used by Olympic athletes for training. On a practical level, it’s great for detaching from heated situations if you find yourself emotionally triggered, or to center yourself during a hectic day. It’s also a powerful Law of Attraction manifesting tool. (Mindfulness is not, however, meant to be used as a means of denial or escaping.)
The good news is, you don’t need to buy anything to practice mindfulness. You can do it all by yourself! A great way to do it is by thinking of your favorite memories.
During this coming week, I’ll be thinking about some of my Maui experiences – especially the times I spent with my husband on the beach!
The next time you find yourself frustrated or stressed, I challenge you to take 30 seconds out of your day and replay one of your favorite memories. The simple act of doing so will shift your energy – leaving you happier, more relaxed, in a better energy.
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Have you ever been around someone with negative energy – and then taken it on?
Have you ever stayed in a toxic situation too long?
More than once.
In college, I stayed in a relationship with a guy who cheated on me and then lied over and over to my face.
A few years ago, I had an employee who didn’t do her work, left me in the lurch, and was dishonest about how she spent her time – yet I continued giving her “one more try”.
And, a number of years ago I continued hanging out with a group of people even though I felt tired and sad every time we met.
Whether it was a work situation, a toxic friendship, or an unhealthy relationship with an old flame, most people have experienced a toxic environment at one time or another. Some people, like me, have experienced them many times.
Looking back, it’s easy to get down on ourselves and say:
“Geez, why did I do that?”
“Why did I stay so long?”
But the truth is, when it comes to toxic environments, things are almost NEVER cut and dried. If they were, we’d know exactly when to leave.
Fortunately, recognizing an unhealthy situation isn’t impossible – if you know what to look for. In that spirit, I present to you my top tell-tale signs for recognizing when the relationship or habitat you’re in is unsafe for you:
Sign #1. You feel like something is off. In my experience, most people are much more intuitive than they give themselves credit for, especially sensitive people like you and me. If you feel like something is wrong or you’re polling your friends for their opinions, chances are you’re right.
Sign #2. You feel drained or exhausted after you spend time there. One of the first signs of toxicity is feeling like your energy is being drained or zapped. Have you ever eaten something that was expired or bad and had a bad reaction to it? The same thing happens to your energetic body when you expose yourself to toxic people or situations.
Sign #3. You stay out of fear. One of the best ways to tell if something is toxic for you is to check your motives. Are you staying because you want to or because your partner or someone else is urging you to? Do you feel like you have to stay for another reason, like finances?
Sign #4. You don’t feel valued. A key sign of a toxic situation is you feel undervalued. This could come in the form of never being asked your opinion, never being validated or being verbally dismissed. Healthy environments, on the other hand, value participants equally and aim to lift all parties up – not down.
Sign #5. You dread going there. If you’re working somewhere you dread or you’re in a relationship with someone you’re afraid of being around, it is time to do something – and fast.
Sign #7. You feel like you’re going crazy. Toxic environments are notoriously confusing – and cause you to second-guess yourself. Things often start out great, and then … bam! – the red flags start popping up. Depending on the severity of the situation, the toxicity may be minimal or it may be unbearable. In my study and experience with the topic, I’ve found one thing to be true: the more toxic, the more erratic the environment. The person may be as nice as can be one day, and the next, they’re scolding or belittling me, or we may be pals one day and enemies the next.
Although examining your environments or relationships for toxicity isn’t always easy, it’s necessary to keep a vigilant eye – don’t you agree? Using the above signs will definitely give you a head-start.
How about you? Do you have any tools not listed above for sniffing out toxicity?
The truth is, almost ALL relationships and environments have elements of toxicity. And just because toxicity exists DOESN’T mean you have to leave.
Although some form of action is usually needed, there are numerous things you can do.
Curious what those are?
Make sure to check out my next article, where I address this head-on!
Even after sleeping for 7-8 hours straight?
With in mind, I’m giving you three of my top fatigue-busting remedies today.
Remember to use them the next time you find yourself exhausted. And if you have any not on this list, I’d love to hear them! Email me here.
Yeah, I thought so.
I have, too.
While it’s AWESOME when someone else’s joy rubs off on you, getting caught in the crossfire of someone else’s moodiness, complaining or negativity sure isn’t fun … don’t you agree?
That’s especially the case if you’re empathic, like me.
If you don’t know what an empathic person is, the simplest way I can describe it is that you’re like a sponge – you “soak up” everything around you. Good or bad, negative or positive. It all leaves a mark on you. And those marks can stay with you unless you know how to handle them or let them go.
Being empathic is great on many levels (you’re more conscientious and aware than the average bear) but if you don’t know how to deal with it or control it, it can make your life challenging to say the least.
I know this because I did it unknowingly for most of my life. I’m not going to delve into the traits of empathic people this week, but if this is something that interests you, stay tuned; I’m currently putting the finishing touches on an article about empathic traits and it’ll be in your inbox soon! Let’s just say there’s a good chance you’re empathic if:
You feel things on a deep and intense level;
You naturally steer clear of large crowds;
You can tell what another person is feeling without them telling you;
Even if you’re NOT a full-fledged empathic person, though, most people have empathic traits to a varying degree; which brings me back to my message today.
Having empathic traits is AMAZING. It is a gift and a feature of highly sensitive, intuitive and emotionally intelligent and available people.
Unfortunately, like anything, it also comes with some challenges and downsides if you don’t know how to handle these traits accordingly.
The example I gave at the beginning of the article is one of the biggest ones: the tendency to absorb other people’s energy. Like I said earlier, it AWESOME when it’s something good … but not-so-good when it’s something bad.
This puts you in a conundrum, though, because you have to live your life, and everyone has bad days. And if you’re not careful, you might start isolating as a way to avoid the negativity (I’ve done this, too).
wouldn’t it be amazing if there was a way to take in the good stuff, but avoid the negative? To actually deflect it so it never bothered you?
I don’t know about you, but at one point in my life I would’ve paid a million dollars to learn how to do this! I didn’t pay quite that much, but I did learn how to do it, and my life is MUCH more peaceful as a result!
And, guess what?
Today, I’d like to share with you some of my top tools for doing just this!
The only question now is … are you ready to learn some deceptively-simple tricks for safeguarding your energy?
Awesome! Let’s jump in!
1. Under the Umbrella. I call this first trick Under the Umbrella.
Let me ask you something: would you ever purposely go into a rainstorm without an umbrella or rain gear? Unless you wanted to get wet, my guess is no, you wouldn’t.
In my opinion, it’s because we simply weren’t taught to do so.
Until now … just like you wear protective gear to shield your physical body from the elements when needed, I want to invite you to begin shielding your energetic body, too. Visualizing an umbrella over you is one of the easiest ways to do this. All you need to do is close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine an umbrella over you, protecting you and keeping negativity out of your space. You can visualize whatever you want under your umbrella: yourself, your family, your house, anything. And when you feel like you don’t need it anymore, visualize yourself closing the umbrella up and putting it away. Yes, it really is that simple. Just know that the umbrella won’t stay out forever; this is a practice you need to do every day.
I love hearing from you! (It’s always a highlight of my week!
And remember: if this subject interests you, stay tuned because in the next few weeks, you’ll receive a fun article from me about empathic people, their characteristics and their gifts.
And who knows? Maybe you’ll discover something about yourself you never knew, and learn some ways to make your life easier, happier and more joyful!
Until then, have a spectacular week!
March 21, 2016
A dozen yellow tulips. Gifts in beautiful boxes. Palm trees. A Caribbean escape. A parasail ride. Renewing my vows on the beach. And a delightful massage.
These are just a handful of the things I’ve manifested since I wrote to you about vision boards last month.
How about you? Have you created your vision board yet? Have you manifested amazing things? Yes?
Please tell me about it!
Oh, wait – did you say no? You haven’t done a vision board yet? And you’re still feeling stuck?
In that case … it’s time to stop procrastinating!
Don’t worry; you’re not in trouble and you’re certainly not alone. As powerful as vision boards are – just ask people like Oprah, Jim Carrey and Will Smith, who credit them as integral to their success – they aren’t something people tend to make a priority (at least in my experience).
The thing is, though, that’s really too bad … because vision boards are one of the easiest, fastest, and most FUN ways of bringing your dreams into reality!
The process is almost too simple – which is probably why most people don’t spend time on vision boards; they just seem too good to be true. That, and most people have a limiting belief that only “hard” work is rewarded. Thankfully, that hasn’t been the case for me. In fact, the more time I spend on pro-active, fun, light activities like vision boarding and the less I spend on grueling, meaningless tasks that suck my energy dry, the more money I make!
Don’t just take my word for it, though … give it a try yourself!
All you need are a few inexpensive supplies and 20-30 minutes of time. Need a little more help? Check out the vision boarding posts I did last month. Then, once your board is done, make sure to snap a picture and send it to me! I’d love to hear about your dreams!
Does finding 20-30 minutes sound impossible? I’ve been there before – and guess what? You’re in luck! In my next post, I’ll give you examples of snack-size vision boards and tricks that only take a few minutes to set up!
I’ll talk to you soon!
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